Are you finding yourself feeling depressed this holiday season?
In every culture, there are special days that bring back memories of home and loved ones.
Those special days can feel bitter sweet when you are dealing with loss. The pain becomes intensified.
You don’t want to deal with happy people because you just can’t feel happy. There is just no faking it.
Do you just wish the holidays were over?
Somehow, when the world is celebrating, loneliness is magnified.
John was a patient of mine for many years. He absolutely loved the holidays.
His devoted wife was a beautiful energetic lady who was always busy doing something creative. She had an unbelievable garden, lots of cats and dogs, she loved to bake and used to have a delicious care package to give me whenever I visited.
Every Christmas, she turned their home into a winter wonderland. It was quite a treat, since the hot humid Hawaiian afternoon just didn’t feel like Christmas to this Montana girl!
I have fond memories of sitting at their kitchen table drinking hot cocoa with candy canes. (With the air conditioning, it almost felt like winter!)
I remember Ida telling me about her challenges making her traditional Christmas dishes without salt. John really looked forward to the family celebration, but usually ended up in the hospital before the new year. To much salt, wine, and fun always did him in.
John would say, “Ida, I’m only gonna live once, it wouldn’t be Christmas without your famous Christmas dinner!”
Every year with the house looking like a post card, the two of them would greet their kids, grand-kids, and extended family for the wildest celebration you have ever seen. My favorite part was singing Christmas carols by the bonfire.
Their family was full of so much love, you could feel it in the air.
Five years ago, John passed away a few days after Thanksgiving.
Ida faced her life without him. She couldn’t celebrate the holiday. Her family tried everything to get her to join them at their homes, or even a Christmas vacation for the whole family. Continue reading article




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