Once you get your feet under you, the next wave can surprise you just as much!
Dog Gone! You thought you had this under control. You thought you were healing and moving forward.
Time heals. However, healing tends to sets the stage for the next layer of grief to demand expression.
As much as you want to be done feeling like dung, you need to grieve when you need to grieve.
Do you see your grieving process somewhere in the list of the stages of grief?
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WE are the helpers!
If you can do nothing else you can pray. You can think a loving thought. Someone near you needs comfort and you can comfort them!
Looking for the helpers can help you get helping. Sudden trauma is shocking! It can make you freeze in your tracks.
Once you start looking around for the helpers you will feel connected again and you can begin helping from where you are.
You don’t need to know how to deal with grief, just take it as it comes. Be gentle with yourself.
There is no right way to grieve, but helping sure helps you grieve.
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Recently I was hired to assess an in home care giving situation.
The elderly woman receiving the care had been experiencing dementia symptoms for over a decade.
At times she was very lucid and you could see how intelligent and thoughtful she was.
At other times she couldn’t remember her children’s names.
One particularly enlightening conversation I had with this sweet woman helped me to see how powerless she has fell all her life. In that moment I got a real sense that her powerlessness was a part of her disease process.
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If you are living with PTSS/PTSD symptoms you will notice that you have a much harder time understanding others and communicating clearly, because you aren’t receiving your own signals.
You become numb.
Soldiers are certainly susceptible to this crippling condition, and so are survivors of traumatic events.
It’s easy to see this type of suffering in others. But it’s a lot harder to see it in yourself.
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UPDATE November 28, 2012 A lot has changed since I wrote this in May! I had to update! Did you wake up this morning with a heavy heart, a heavy sigh and an occupied mind? Do you find yourself most of the time physically, emotionally and financially drained? If …
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