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How Long Does It Take To Work Through the Stages of Grief?

 

There is no right way to grieve.  There is no time limit to grief.

The rest of the world may want you to “get over it” and rejoin the living, but you will grieve until you have allowed the grieving process to heal you.

That can be challenging, because grief hurts so much it feels like it will kill you.  It is hard to “allow” an emotion that feels so harmful.

It is hard to allow the stages of grief.

Denial feels so much better than grief within the moments that your heart is breaking.

Lena was very close to her family.

Her parents had a very deep love, and they shared that Love with her and her younger sister.

When her Father passed, her Mother wasn’t far behind.  She said she knew her mom wouldn’t stick around without him.

Lena felt orphaned.  Her grief was so deep and wide that she thought it would swallow her whole.

Lena’s sister passed only a few years after her parents, and then Continue reading How Long Does It Take To Work Through the Stages of Grief?

In Times of Crisis, Do You Still Believe In Miracles?

Do you believe in miracles

Have you ever felt chewed up and spit out by life?

You are in good company.  Everyone goes through trials.

When you consider all your “problems” to be Challenges to Rise to….

Life becomes a wondrous adventure.

Don’t let the obstacles defeat you!

Your challenges are designed to make you stronger and more compassionate, so that you will be prepared to fulfill your purpose in this lifetime!

It is important that you look at every trial as a chance to grow!

Serving Your Purpose Will Take Great Strength!

Recently I have been tried and tested.

You, too?

We are a bunch of animal lovers around my house.  A few weeks ago our puppies got sick and before I had noticed they needed help, the girl puppy died.  We saved her brothers, but we were all so sad and grieving the loss of that sweet little girl.

Not two weeks later, my daughter’s little rascal Maggie dog had escaped again and before anyone realized she was out, she got hit by a truck on the road in front of our house.  That broke our hearts all over again.

In the meantime, a close friend was going through torment over someone poisoning his dog.  Evidently it wasn’t the first dog in the neighborhood to be poisoned, and the culprit hasn’t been apprehended.

My friend was being pressured by friends and family to put the poor dog down.  It was extremely hard to watch!

She was  completely paralyzed for 2 days!

He fed her and gave her water with a syringe.  No way he would “put her down until she was in pain”, he said.

The dog was paralyzed for goodness sake!  I thought he was losing it!  Do you believe in miracles?

 

Since there was no talking him out of it, I gave him my bottle of bentonite clay hoping it would help to pull some of the poison out of her.

He gave her a dose every few hours, taking time to move her frozen legs and reposition her.

His sister came to his house and was so emotional, she held the dog and cried,

“Please let me take the dog and have her put to sleep!” she begged.

Still he refused.

Can you imagine how shocked I was on the forth day when the dog greeted me at the door?

No kidding!

Within a week, she was running, playing and FINE!

With all the heart ache in our house, this story of never giving up has given us solace in our grief and renewed our faith that Love and Compassion Are Blessings From God.

Sometimes it his hard to be faithful.

Do you believe in miracles?

That happy little dog is a walking-tail wagging-miracle in my book.

I feel chewed up and spit out even though I’m at peace.

All the trauma has me feeling really run down and needing rest and recuperation.

Though I have not felt very restful.

Do you have trouble resting when you know you should?

Does restlessness torment you when you are having trouble processing your emotions?

In the middle of the storm of emotion, it was difficult to return my attention to my Sacred Breath and I am The Life Breath Coach!

It can be really difficult to recognize your own need for tender loving care when you are in the middle of a heart breaking situation.

Meeting with a committed group of like minded friends once a week can be an anchor of sanity when the world gets crazy on you!

That is exactly the way that I use The Life Breath Club to benefit my own Personal Sacred Breathing Program!

Find out how your breathing makes you sick, especially during times of emotional distress!  And then join us every Monday for some good energy with friends on The Life Breath Club’s weekly meeting!

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It’s FREE and just the connection you need to keep you connected!

This is a private membership site to protect your medical privacy.

 

Many blessings,

Carrie Tucker, RCP

The Life Breath Coach

Heart Failure Solutions

 

PS– Remember everyday:

  • Relax and Release tension
  • Exhale Slowly
  • Be active in a way that adds Joy to your life

Plus pure water ~whole foods~sunshine~and laughter

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Is There A Hole In Your World This September 11th?

Do you remember the way you felt that horrible September 11th eight years ago?  It was early morning in Hawaii, and I remember it well.

My heart aches as I type this.

How did you process your emotions of sorrow and anguish?  The world is still mourning that day!

My process involved a whole lotta tears.  I hope you found something equally as effective.  You can’t keep that strong emotion inside you, even though it may feel safer to stuff it.

It isn’t necessary to focus on painful anniversaries, but if they bring up old emotion, take advantage of the blessing and release all that stuff you’ve been holding onto.

Be gentle with yourself.  Time heals but it can also bring up new layers of grief.  Some aspects of the grieving process are just too painful to bear until some time has passed.

The following song really helps me.  The Eagles wrote it during their healing process from 9–11.  I love what they ask from each of us.

Besides ripping our hearts out, September 11th also caused us to reach out to each other in a way that I don’t think many had experienced in their lifetime.

Didn’t the pain of September 11th cause your hardened heart to melt?

What have you done with all that fear and sorrow?

What steps have you taken to assure that there will never be such a hole in the world ever again?

What steps can you take today?

What can you do to heal the world so there will be no more holes?

One person CAN make a difference!

The Life Breath Club here on Heart Failure Solutions is a connection to community that is healing.

Sometimes it can be hard to get out of your comfort zone and meet new people and nurture new friendships!

Feeling sick and exhausted can make getting OUT at all a real challenge!

So, it can really help your morale to build a bit of a support system virtually!  Meet by telephone or computer with The Life Breath Club each week and feel the connection that is so important to all of us!  No man or woman is an island.  You’ve got to reach out a little at a time until you become part of your community.

Find out how your breathing makes you sick, especially during times of emotional duress!  And then join us every Monday for some good energy with friends on The Life Breath Club’s weekly meeting!

Join Now

It’s FREE and just the connection you need to keep you connected!

This is a private membership site to protect your medical privacy.

 

Many blessings,

Carrie Tucker, RCP

The Life Breath Coach

Heart Failure Solutions

 

PS– Remember everyday:

  • Relax and Release tension
  • Slow Exhale
  • Be active in a way that adds Joy to your life

Plus pure water ~whole foods~sunshine~and laughter

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Could A Free Obituary Template Make Your Life A Little Easier?

English: Flower arrangement for funeral Dansk:...As a caregiver you are a hero.  Period.

It may feel like a thankless job much of the time, but you know the value of your daily routine.

Your days are filled with one task after another.  If you aren’t organized, or have a particularly scattered day, you are chasing your tail, aren’t you?

Without your routine, and the rhythm of the day, you and those you care for are just NOT going to get the nurturing you normally are able to give seemingly without effort.

(You make it look SO easy!)

 

When there is a death in the family, life is dumped upside down. 

Your routine is out the window.

Getting things done becomes a challenge.

“Frustrating isn’t it?!”

Utilize every resource you can find.

 

You will find many resources that will make your life a whole lot easier, and your memories much more easy to gather.


Free obituary templates can be very helpful.

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Are You Mourning the Loss Of Your Loved One Before Their Death?

Death is a part of life.  When someone you love dies, your life  goes on without them.

Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia can effectively take your loved one from you.  Though your lives go on, the person you loved is gone.  They are no longer who they were.  Someone else is living with you.

Grieving for the loss of a loved one that is not dead is a heart wrenching kind of pain.

Do you feel angry and sad? Continue reading Are You Mourning the Loss Of Your Loved One Before Their Death?