Is your spouse or maybe another close relation driving you nuts with their neediness?
You love them, but you don’t love being sucked dry?
Even healthy relationships have their challenges.
The relationship problem advice you are seeking might give you as much insight into your own neediness as your spouse’s.
The source of neediness within a relationship lies with the “inner-child” needs and issues of both parties.
Both your inner child and their’s need to be considered to discover creative ways to nurture your relationship and satisfy that needy feeling.
In case you don’t know this about me, I’m a parenting instructor as well as a health coach. When I get the chance, I teach Redirecting Children’s Behavior.
Whether I teach it in a classroom or over the fence to the neighbor, I’ve seen this powerful information change lives!
Understanding why your children do what they do is empowering all by itself. Teaching them to meet their own needs empowers them and satisfies that needy feeling.
Redirecting Behavior starts with nurturing yourself and making sure your “bank” is full. Then it is important to nurture all the important relationships in your life by making deposits in the “bank” of the one you love, more often than you withdraw from it!
When dealing with adults it is easy to see how nurturing their inner child will get you a whole lot further than arguing with them.
In the case of self sabotage, the answers lie within. The answers lie with YOUR inner child.
Want to understand the inner child that’s driving you nuts?
If you are self sabotaging, or your needy spouse is mis-behaving you need to understand what might be the underlying goal of the behavior.
The first sign that this is an issue is probably going to be your irritation with yourself and/or others.
When you feel irritated, ask yourself which of the mistaken goals below might be the issue. Continue reading article